So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson
Source: copy from the library; all opinions are my own
Official Summary: For the past three years, Jon Ronson has travelled the world meeting recipients of high-profile public shamings. The shamed are people like us – people who, say, made a joke on social media that came out badly, or made a mistake at work. Once their transgression is revealed, collective outrage circles with the force of a hurricane and the next thing they know they’re being torn apart by an angry mob, jeered at, demonized, sometimes even fired from their job.
A great renaissance of public shaming is sweeping our land. Justice has been democratized. The silent majority are getting a voice. But what are we doing with our voice? We are mercilessly finding people’s faults. We are defining the boundaries of normality by ruining the lives of those outside it. We are using shame as a form of social control.
Review: I’ve seen this book at the bookstore and I really wanted to read it, so I was excited when I realized that one of my local libraries had a copy that I could borrow. This book is mostly about every day people (the book starts with a story about an author though) who have said or done something upsetting and posted it on social media (usually, there are some other stories about plagiarism, etc.). These people are usually just trying to make a joke or doing something “amusing” for their friends. Unfortunately, not just their friends see these things (especially on Twitter) and it gets passed along until it’s a huge deal and the original poster is now being publicly shamed.
Ronson focuses on Twitter a lot as a server of justice, because it’s often anonymous for most people and it’s easy to sit behind a screen and rip someone apart for a badly worded tweet or unfortunate picture. This is just one tiny part of a person’s history and yet it soon becomes all the world knows about them. Google their name and you learn what they wish would just disappear. People on the internet, especially Twitter, call them names, call for them to be fired from their jobs (and some are!), and even worse. It’s especially bad, it seems for women. People use sexual threats against them, saying they should be raped and killed, and this is terrifying. Why are people so hateful toward each other?
It was interesting to see the various stories that Ronson focused on, because even if I – as a reader- did not agree with what the person did, I would never publicly call them out. Some of these stories I remember hearing about, but a lot of them I had never heard any details. One story is about a woman who made a badly worded joke about going to Africa and not getting AIDS because she’s white. She found it funny because who would ever think that someone would actually believe white people couldn’t get AIDS. Unfortunately, her tweet got passed to someone with a lot of followers and soon she was trending on Twitter and people were outraged at her attitude toward AIDS victims and calling her racist. This young lady was fired from a job she loved and she was thrown into a deep depression. It was horrible to read about and yet fascinating to see how hurtful people can be on social media where there are really no repercussions.
This is just one story, but there are many more, and I highly recommend checking out this book to learn the details. It’s non-fiction, but it keeps you reading and I never found it boring!
yes social medias are so complicated, it can do good and so many other things too… an interesting book!
This book is on my wish list!! I am super fascinated by this whole topic. I think it is awful what happens to some of these people even if they are wrong. There is actually going to be a show on SciFi channel I think about how the internet ruined people's lives. Glad yo hear you liked this . Great review!
I love when books shed light and attention on social media, as it is such a prevalent part of today's society. Definitely going to check this one out.
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I saw the author on The Daily Show a few years ago and I remember the woman's story from when it happened.
I actually think Twitter is good at giving a voice to people who have been long ignored but it also makes us think we have the whole picture when we don't. It's hard to give a complex topic it's due in 140 characters and without context.
Karen @For What It's Worth
Wow, this is the first I've heard of this book but it sounds so interesting. The first thing that comes to mind is that some of these incidents started easily enough as someone making a joke. Even if maybe in poor taste. But now it seems everyone is just looking for ways to be offended so that gets jumped on and attacked. And then there's the lynch mob mentality. It's so easy for some people to viciously attack others online from the safety of their phone/desk/etc when everyone else is doing it, too. And yet there can be such serious repercussions! Like the lady who lost her job. It's a really interesting subject. Enjoyed reading your thoughts on this one, Lauren.
Glad this kept you turning the pages, that is definitely what it is all about.
And this is why social media bothers me so much. Anything you say can be perceived and twisted into something life-ruining. This books sounds interesting in a morbid sort of way haha
Ah, very interesting. It boggles the mind how normal people somehow turn into cruel people on the internet when they're anonymous. I don't understand how it happens at all. Makes me relieved that I've never been subjected to any unpleasant behaviour on social media!
Although it's not okay for people to be so hateful, I do think it's important for people realize that it's extremely easy to be misunderstood when you're posting online (e.g. things can be taken out of context, you might have a bad day and type something you'll regret later, etc.). This book can serve as a good lesson.