4 Tips for Finding Love Like the Kind You Read About

Posted August 26, 2020 by shooting in Discussion, Guest Post / 12 Comments

4 Tips For Finding Love Like The Kind You Read About

Written by Lorie W. 

Have you ever read a romance novel that made you yearn for the love like that kind the characters experienced in the story? You were probably thinking about how unfair it is that you may never have a novel-worthy love story. However, that’s not the case. We are the authors of our own lives, so keep reading to find out how you can set yourself up to create a love story of your own that could inspire a future romance novel.

Look The Part

First things first, you have to make yourself look and feel like the main character of your life. Self-confidence is key and is what will help attract a potential lover to you. When we feel good about ourselves on the outside, we can feel good about ourselves on the inside too and will be in a better position to begin a romantic relationship. Tackling insecurities is one of the best places to start when it comes to increasing self-confidence.

It can be overwhelming to know where to begin, so sometimes it’s best to start small and work your way up. Some insecurities are easier to fix by using a medication, like finasteride for hair loss or prescribed acne treatment for any facial blemishes. On the other hand, some insecurities may be a long process to improve like body image and any mental health struggles. For these, don’t be afraid to seek professional help so that you can achieve the healthiest results and boost your confidence.

Also, consider upgrading your closet with clothes that you feel great in. Find your aesthetic and embrace self-expression. Whatever it may be, take the time to treat yourself and work on any insecurities you may have. Feeling confident will give you the power to feel comfortable in your skin and help you attract the right person for you.

Be Adventurous

Have you ever noticed that when two characters in a romance novel meet, it’s typically when one of them does something out of their comfort zone? This is because doing something you normally wouldn’t is a great way to meet new people. It’s no coincidence that the best moments in life usually happen outside of our comfort zone. So, if you want to create your own love story then consider going out on an adventure.

If you’re not sure where to start, think about things that you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had enough courage to try. For some, this might be trying out van life and traveling the country, while for others it could simply be working up the courage to go to a dinner party with new people. Keep in mind though, that you’ll probably need to leave your comfort zone more than once, so consider joining a community where you can meet new people regularly, like at the gym or consistently going to the same kind of social events.

Let Love Find You

You can’t just wake up one day and decide that it will be the day you fall in love. Finding love is a process, and more often than not it comes when you least expect it. If you go looking for the love of your life, it will be harder to know when you find the right person because you might be forcing the connection. The characters in romance novels never go looking for love, they let it happen naturally and keep an open mind. The energy you emit and your mindset will help you most when it comes to love.

Put yourself out there, get out of your comfort zone, meet new people, and embrace any chemistry that you find between you and another person. With the right mindset, manifestation, and the law of attraction, love will find you if you put your heart out there.

Know Your Needs and Stay True to Yourself

At the end of the day, it’s important to know what you want out of a relationship. When you know what you want, you won’t be afraid to speak up for what you deserve and won’t settle for anything less. Before you enter a relationship, think about what it is that you want from it and make sure the other person has intentions that align.

Also, maintain who you are as an individual and what your values are at the forefront of your mind. Truly think about who you are as a person and if you find yourself changing for the worse, then maybe this person isn’t the best fit. The reason we love relationships in romance novels so much is usually because we admire the love and bond that the characters share. Remember that you deserve that kind of love too, so don’t sell yourself short and keep looking until you find the one.

12 responses to “4 Tips for Finding Love Like the Kind You Read About

  1. Jen

    Fabulous advice! “Also, maintain who you are as an individual and what your values are at the forefront of your mind. Truly think about who you are as a person and if you find yourself changing for the worse, then maybe this person isn’t the best fit.”

    Love should accept us for what we are.

  2. It’s also mega important to not settle. I unfortunately did this and ended up in a horrible marriage. Thankfully I learned a lot, got divorced, and met a man that is amazing.

  3. I think fixing myself up always ups my confidence, and doing something out of your comfort zone, being adventurous is good advice, too. But the best advice is to be true to yourself. 🙂

  4. I think a lot of this is good advise irrespective of whether you’re wanting to find a partner… Especially the advice under “Looking The Part”. I definitely need to spend some more time working to be happier in my own skin…

  5. Dorothy Boucher

    I love what you wrote here, Although I have been with someone for almost 17 years, I don’t think its true love. but close. I am blessed.

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